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Embracing the Pain: A Journey to Self-Healing

As the year draws to a close, whether by choice or circumstance, we all find ourselves reflecting on the chapters of the past. Today, I want to reach out to those who have endured a season of loss, pain, and unexplainable change. It’s a daunting task to come to terms with the fact that life will never be the same, and it’s a journey paved with heartache and realization that everything you once knew has shifted.

In these moments, your heart aches for itself. The protective shield and the comforting lies that shielded you from pain and trauma are now shattered. The harsh reality of life’s unpredictability has stripped away the beautiful naivety that once sustained you. Dreams lie crushed, and the light within seems lost.

I could offer you the usual words of encouragement and rally cries, but this time, let’s try something different. Let’s allow ourselves to wallow, to feel every bit of the pain, anger, and heartbreak. It’s perfectly acceptable to simply sit with these emotions, without pretense or forced smiles. Sometimes, the best course of action is to be fully present in the moment, with all its raw and authentic truth.

While it’s important to seek the light in every situation, there’s tremendous healing in not fighting yourself. Let all those emotions flow, whether it’s through tears, screams, or even laughter. Release that pent-up energy. It’s time to set yourself free, to let go of the chains that have bound you to expectations, ideologies, or concepts that no longer serve your current reality.

Embrace the freedom to just be, whatever that may entail. The choice is yours, and there are no more excuses or pretenses to uphold. It’s a battle between you and yourself. Take a moment to ask yourself, given everything you’ve experienced, how can you best honor yourself in this particular stage or season of life? That question will be your guiding light through the darkness, leading you towards empowerment and self-discovery.

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Navigating Fear: Embrace Your Authentic Self

Fear can grip us tightly, especially when we face the unknown. We often find solace in the fact that others have walked this path before us, but the truth remains – it’s your first time on this unique journey. So, diminishing your fear just because you’re not the first or the last to experience it doesn’t truly benefit anyone.

It’s unwise to belittle your emotions by trying to push them away. Whether it’s a deliberate act or an unintended consequence, ridiculing your own feelings is like mocking the very essence of who you are. The progress you’ve made, the battles you’ve fought, and the resilience that have brought you to this moment are significant and should be acknowledged.

You are worth it, every bit of it. You’re worth feeling scared or any other emotion that washes over you. Don’t hastily brush aside your emotions, thoughts, or feelings. Even if they seem ordinary or unoriginal, they are undeniably valid.

So, take a moment to breathe, and grant yourself the permission to just be. It’s okay to feel fear, to be bold, to doubt, or to hope, all at the same time. Embrace the paradox of your emotions. You are allowed to experience them all or none at all. Whatever emotions arise, accept them with your whole heart and soul.

Let go of the shame and blame for merely existing. Every day is a fresh start, a new opportunity to explore life’s adventures. Even when situations and circumstances seem repetitive, remember that you are not the same person you were yesterday. You have the freedom to approach them from new angles, to adapt and grow. Give yourself the freedom to evolve, to uncover the different versions of yourself in varying situations.

Here’s the not-so-surprising truth: you’re human. No human remains static. Change is our nature; it’s the essence of our existence. So, why not wholeheartedly embrace this inevitable transformation?

You are a beautiful tapestry of emotions, a masterpiece of evolution. Embrace your journey, for it is uniquely yours. As you step onto the path of life, it’s not about being the first or the last; it’s about being authentically and unapologetically you.

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Understanding Trauma pt.2: The Power of Healing Within

 

“What is not transformed, is transferred.” I recently heard these words, and they couldn’t be more true.

 

We all carry our share of trauma. Trauma is the lingering wound left behind by life’s experiences, and often, we mistake trauma for the incidents themselves.

 

Every occurrence in our lives, whether we like it or not, has a direct cause and effect. Regrettably, we don’t always have a say in the prediction. That’s just life. However, we do have the power to assess the impact and heal what leaves a negative mark – that’s trauma.

 

Many of us have learned to coexist with it, what I call “high-functioning trauma.” It becomes a part of us, an unspoken agreement to live together. We accommodate it, or at least we think we do. The truth is, we’ve convinced ourselves that we’re in control. We’ve mastered the art of keeping our trauma on a leash, preventing it from consuming us. But are we really in control, or have we deluded ourselves into thinking so?

 

Intentionally inflicting wounds on ourselves doesn’t make us stronger or immune to the wounds created without our consent. Unfortunately, that’s a path many of us have chosen to cope and heal.

 

It’s time to stop glorifying trauma. Let’s acknowledge the pain, focus on treating the wounds that often leave us feeling ashamed, broken, scared, and weak. Beating yourself down and punishing yourself will never be the answer. The harsh environment that created the trauma can’t be the same one used to heal it. Darling, it’s time to do the opposite. Embrace that unfamiliar feeling, which may make you feel like a hypocrite.

 

It all starts with you. Love, it starts with you.

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Understanding trauma: The power of brain rewiring.

Rewiring your brain can help you reclaim your strength and heal from past traumas, but it starts with nurturing your inner child. Repeatedly and intentionally, show them a path of growth and transformation, making them feel safe.

To me, acceptance means embracing both the positive and negative aspects that surround a particular situation for the sake of what truly matters to you. This is where the real healing begins. You’re essentially reprogramming your mind to establish a strong value system that differs from what it learned during traumatic experiences.

Imagine, as a child, expressing your thoughts or feelings might have felt like nobody really cared or understood, leaving you with a sense of rejection. Over time, your brain picked up the message that it’s safer to keep things inside. This programming continues into adulthood, causing difficulties in your relationships. What once helped you survive can no longer serve you, and change becomes inevitable. The kind of change you choose will influence the new system your brain learns.

You can either develop healthier coping mechanisms or bury your emotions deeper, further disconnecting from the root issues. The choice is yours, but it’s not easy. Running and hiding may seem simpler than facing the fear that the responsibility for change lies with you. It will demand your full commitment, embracing both the good and the difficult. Unfortunately, there’s no clear, linear path to healing.

This is precisely why it’s crucial to always intentionally and consistently align your focus with your core values, throughout each season of life. It will be your guiding light on your journey towards Healing and growth.

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Changing Seasons

The power of starting over.
It’s incredible what time, seasons and effort can do to shift the trajectory of life. What is painful and hopeless in one season starts to slowly fade away as you move. Before you know it, you start noticing things that you never thought of before.

Possibilities that open a new portal you never could have imagined. Is this what healing looks like? Feels like? A newness that doesn’t feel foreign. It is as though you were always like this. The dots have finally connected and the last tab is, meant to be. Are we finally free? Complete, whole, finally, a sense of control.

I like it here, it feels safe here. Here there’s no need to escape.
Familiarity that reminds you of home, but free from the baggage that created a sinking hole.
Here, now, we’re whole.
We like it here. We do, we have to.

Every night over a glass of wine, whisper memories of despair and time. No, I choose, to focus my eyes on you; forget all we’ve been through.

Please, can we stay here until the end of time? What if I promised to make you mine? Allow me to be your favorite sign. All that we are, all that we have, is right here. My love, we will be fine.

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At what cost?

We so easily get comfortable with the flaws created from survival mode, that we blindly start believing it’s acceptable to disregard all else.

I know I behave a certain way, and nothing else really matters because, you don’t know what I’ve been through, you have no idea what I had to do, to get to where I am.

I have laser vision on self and self alone because, because that is right. That is what we’re supposed to do. No one understands you, no one will ever fight for you in the magnitude you crave, other than yourself. So, it’s okay to disregard all else. Right? Right. It has a justice ring to it, so it got to be true. It just has to!

But at what cost? Yes, everything has a price. The inconveniencing truth that you may win the war, but what, who remains with you? Are you the only survivor? Most probably. Congratulations! You won. You crashed and burned all that was in your way, finally proved that you were right.

Celebrate your victory! Alone. You got everyone to see it your way, they see you now, oh you’re unmatched. Go on, match to the beat of your drum. No one is stopping you now. It’s all you, this is what you were fighting for right? To be the exception. Can you handle it? Are you ready to pay for it? Is it worth it? Go ahead love, your island awaits.

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Flawed and all

Our brain quickly picks up on our habits, they quickly transform into character. Now it’s easy to adapt a flaw, even more weird cause it doesn’t require much time or energy to sustain it. Oh the unfairness of it all! Let me not digress.

Having experienced early segregation and rejection, chasing and validating my thoughts and actions became an addiction. Maybe it became part of me. A flaw in my character or then I would say, ‘it’s just who I am’.

I later learnt that there’s a thin line between justification and transgression. One is good, the other bad. But how do you even the scales? How do I ensure that when I identify my flaws, it doesn’t consume me?

Paraphrasing Jordan Petersons’ words; That in order for us to be good, we have to acknowledge our potential to be dangerous. I agree, for only when you fully know and understand what you’re capable of, your evil nature; its degree, your flaws; its limits, then you can truthfully say with confidence that you know yourself.

The process of working on yourself, learning who you are as a whole, healing, requires one to tame/control that scary, dangerous and flawed part of you. There’s no escaping it, therefore don’t wait for circumstances to force you to confront it. It is better to intentionally do it yourself. Remember, there’s no shame. We’re all flawed love, deal with it. Cause if you don’t, the likelihood of you burning it all, including yourself, is prime.

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Pride: war of the egos

Always on fight mode.Who are you fighting? Where are you going? What’s the price? Learn to let go. Not everything needs a fight. Sometimes, shutting up helps.

Well, I’ve always been a fighter. A stir that boils deep inside, takes over all senses, demands to be felt and only rests when it’s done. Know what I mean? Well, that’s me. For the most part of it, it was seen as a flaw.

My opinion? Well if speaking up, calling situations out and voicing for the voiceless is a flaw? Call me Chief Justice please and thank you. That statement right there gives me such thrill, excitement, even now. A righteousness that cannot be explained.

Early in my school years I used to thrive in debates. In a classroom, if we were told to defend a character or anything that needed defence? Oh I’d be right up there ready to wield my eager blade; my tongue, my shield; my brain.

Looking back it does seem like I always was itching for a fight. Expanded my horizons from school to now relationships, the system, name it? I’m there. Ready and willing to spar. The excitement of proving what most people see as black and white, that hey! Perhaps there’s more to which you all don’t see, but I do.

Always eager for my different point of view to be seen, heard, felt, acknowledged, praised.

You know the feeling you get when you access, believe that your way is the better way and your track record supports your theory?! Oh the joy, the fulfilment you get.

Careful now, because once the pattern becomes a norm, you start trusting it. I’ll tell you right now, run. Run love, fear with all your might. Because, once you start rejecting your human nature to be flawed? To not always have it right, chasing perfection? Well, in comes the good sweet high that can never be sustained. Commence; war of the egos. Pride.

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